Expectations be damned!

Oh how I’d love to spend some time with this widow. I pray we all come to the depth of her wisdom on grief.

We as a society would be so much healthier. Ready to comfort our grieving without the insane expectations.

As a wife and mother of “the deceased” I have found that due to our warped societal expectations that even the grieving crave an end to the emotions of our grief, as if forgotten. Out of the pain of enduring this process alone.


Shane Dare

May we all, as a society follow true Christianity – Father God’s acceptable model of caring for our grieving family, friends, neighbors and acquaintances.

James 1:27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

Here’s my favorite excerp from the article:

Stifled Grief: How the West has it Wrong –  Michelle E. Steinke – Huffpost

Expectation: Time heals all wounds.

Reality: Time softens the impact of the pain, but you are never completely healed. Rather than setting up false expectations of healing let’s talk about realistic expectations of growth and forward movement. Grief changes who you are at the deepest levels and while you may not forever be in an active mode of grief you will forever be shaped by the loss you have endured.

To read the whole article: A link to wisdom

Follow Michelle E. Steinke on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/OneFitWidow

Thanks for reading. God bless.


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